How to Process Emotions and Find Their Value

Step-by-step instructions on what to do with feelings. Key information that has to be easily referenced!

By honoring your inner feelings and emotions, you quench your deepest thirst. These arise as golden breadcrumbs indicating an opportunity for alignment with your greater self. However, they are not always the easiest to deal with.

Here are simple steps to processing your emotions – to get through them rather than “stuffing them”. Reap the rewards of these divine hints.

1. Grab a pen and paper and get to a quiet space. Go to the bathroom if need be. Center yourself and create a compassionate space for your healing.

2. Write down what made you feel blue. Who or what upset you? Outline notes about what triggered the emotions.

3. Vent/express the emotions. In a healthy, safe way, let the feelings out! Get to those feelings that the innermost part of you felt in the situation. You can cuss if it helps you to uplift them from your inner being (this actually pumps out your lower chakra). Act as if you are talking to that person and say the harshest things you want to say – on paper. Let it all out - anger, frustration, and sadness. You can punch a pillow, exercise, cry, talk it out, create art - whatever works best for you, as long as you have the intention of letting these emotions out of your body and physically release them.

4. See the reflection. What opportunity has been given to you today? Why did God bring this into your life? What did you want to learn here? Usually if you go back and look at the things that you said in #2 and #3, you’ll find that you’ve been doing these exact same things on some level to someone as well, possibly yourself. When we aren’t seeing what we are doing, the world acts as a mirror to reflect to us what we are doing - to help us see. If you are open, you will find it.

5. Own the mirror. Accept what you have done and determine how you will be better next time. If necessary, make agreements with yourself or others about how to handle these situations or feelings in the future. True compassion is beyond forgiving - its actually giving thanks to the people who have helped you to learn about yourself.

6. Clear it out. Apologize to the person who has reflected this to you. Sometimes, it may be yourself or your inner child. A true apology has nothing to do with rationalization. Simply speak to the pain that you have caused, acknowledge it, and if possible make amends. Take action to better yourself.

As you continue to work through emotions, you may find that many of them clear out and you are not triggered as easily any more. After repeated use, people often heal miraculously from their dis-eases, look years younger, and you may see a sparkle return to their eyes.

by Danielle Crume © 2012

 

Originally Posted 10/29/09.  Refreshed 2012.