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“…And the greatest of all these is love.” ~Corinthians You could explore and study love for your whole lifetime and still never fully understand it. You may only catch a glimpse of its fascinating possibilities. Love is one of those expansive eternal forces - far beyond our senses’ ordinary perception. It is something many dream of, imagine about, and wait for. Some say love is the essence of all there is and that love is the answer. Some say love hurts or it doesn’t even exist. Some prophets say that there is only love or fear at the root of everything - and that love is the only truth. We all have different versions and understandings of love - which evolve throughout our lifetime. They may range from a feeling for a soul mate to one about a favorite shirt. Love can be a sweet nickname or a feared word. Some express it with tenderness, others with strength. Some say I love you to everyone. Some reserve it only for “the one”. Others never say it at all. It can be as simple a...

My notes, adapted from Gregg Braden's book Walking Between the Worlds, one of my most life-altering reads from my all-time favorite author. The Three Universal Fears Your charge of universal fears, though often unconscious, is your promise that you will create patterns of relationships showing you these fears. With few exceptions, our experiences of pain, suffering, illness, disease, and emotional trauma have their roots in these core universal fears. These are the three basic underlying fears many of us experience: 1. Abandonment and Separation We feel left or abandoned by our creator without explanation or reason. We feel alone . (Ex: "our father who art in heaven" vs. "our father who is everywhere"). Expressed as : relationships where you are devastated when they fail, always being the one who gets "left" in the relationship, and/or being the first to leave a good relationship so that you are not hurt. 2. Self Worth We are not ...

We are all different, thankfully so.  It would get incredibly boring very quickly if we all were the same, wouldn't it? A couple years ago, a very good friend of mine introduced me to the concept of Spiral Dynamics - and I love it.  It has beautiful way of expressing that which I've innately found to be true through my curiosities and extensive people watching...   Spiral Dynamics org anizes each "type" of person in an easy to understand system.   I love looking at all kinds of schools of understanding and looking at broader perspectives.  This is one that is not as publicly known as many others, so I wanted to share it with you.   I have not done extensive research in this approach (I enjoy several different ones).  I am just sharing what I've found so far, as I find it fascinating, and in the process learn more of the details... Spiral Dynamics is a framework or method of organization to help see the patterns held within it.  ...

This does not qualify as my favorite thing to do… but communication is a basic skill that we all should have.  The fact is, however, that many of us are very gray and elementary in this area.  It’s not something emphasized in school and it’s not fun to deal with unhappy feelings and challenges – so we usually avoid them like the plague.  But if we open to the divine opportunities within them, we can reap great rewards and change feelings into freelings . Communication has been rising for me during the challenges of the holidays, so as I brush up on my skills and refresh what I know, I share it with you! :)  This is an expansion of what I previously wrote about in many articles including  Communication and Dealing with Conflict , but goes much farther into the earlier steps of being clear about the emotions you need to communicate. I am still very stubborn and many times I delay this process, but through my experience with it, I always come back to...