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I've always been a people watcher.  As a young girl, I openly looked at everyone I came in contact with, wondering who was the happiest?  It was a little disheartening during my exploration to uncover that it seemed that almost everyone had a significant amount of unhappiness and troubles in life.  I guess I wanted to live a fairy tale.  Some people, however, had a great time with life, even through its challenges. I noticed that those who were overall most happiest usually had a sense of humor about their experience.  They weren't richer, more beautiful, or better off.  They were just happy with what was and were strong in rolling with it.  Everyone goes through hard times. Being truly happy is not by getting somewhere or accomplishing something.  It is a part of who you are .  It is your character, your essential being, the fabric of you.  Children are often born with a knowing of it, but many of us lose touch with this understand...

My notes, adapted from Gregg Braden's book Walking Between the Worlds, one of my most life-altering reads from my all-time favorite author. The Three Universal Fears Your charge of universal fears, though often unconscious, is your promise that you will create patterns of relationships showing you these fears. With few exceptions, our experiences of pain, suffering, illness, disease, and emotional trauma have their roots in these core universal fears. These are the three basic underlying fears many of us experience: 1. Abandonment and Separation We feel left or abandoned by our creator without explanation or reason. We feel alone . (Ex: "our father who art in heaven" vs. "our father who is everywhere"). Expressed as : relationships where you are devastated when they fail, always being the one who gets "left" in the relationship, and/or being the first to leave a good relationship so that you are not hurt. 2. Self Worth We are not ...

Warriors of Love are fearless in their love.    They are openly sensitive and  embrace their vulnerability.  They love without expectations or need of love in return.  It is their true nature.  They don't "give" love, they simply embody it.  They ARE love.  It emanates from them. Some people are uncomfortable with the powerful love from these warriors.   They prefer "pink sauce love" in which everything is "Love and Light", hearts and flowers, and sugar-coated.  Although its soft and fluffy, it's not real.  It often weakens people by comforting them with a temporary band-aid for staying stuck in old patterns.  They are not truly fulfilled.  They are needy and unhappy with being alone. Love Warriors are powerful .  Their love may even be fierce at times.  They aren't concerned with being nice or liked by everyone.  They only want to be True.  They are honest and outspoken.  They don't hold bac...

This does not qualify as my favorite thing to do… but communication is a basic skill that we all should have.  The fact is, however, that many of us are very gray and elementary in this area.  It’s not something emphasized in school and it’s not fun to deal with unhappy feelings and challenges – so we usually avoid them like the plague.  But if we open to the divine opportunities within them, we can reap great rewards and change feelings into freelings . Communication has been rising for me during the challenges of the holidays, so as I brush up on my skills and refresh what I know, I share it with you! :)  This is an expansion of what I previously wrote about in many articles including  Communication and Dealing with Conflict , but goes much farther into the earlier steps of being clear about the emotions you need to communicate. I am still very stubborn and many times I delay this process, but through my experience with it, I always come back to...

Read this in a book a while back. I picked it up because I thought it was kinda funny and would be interesting. Just found the notes I had taken... Helpful things for us to keep in mind. Good for me to reconnect with too. We could all learn a bit about relationships and connecting with others! :) Six Ways to Make People Like You: 1. Become genuinely interested in others. 2. Smile. 3. Remember that a man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in the English language. 4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. 5. Talk in terms of the other person's interest. 6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely. Can't we all just get along? :) Have fun!

Communication is essential in every relationship, especially those that we are closest to and depend on. Partners can best recognize and find solutions to difficulties and challenges by working together - finding mutually acceptable solutions and growing closer than ever before. When done in a healthy way, sharing your feelings creates outstanding growth in relationships. Please note that it is very important that you first process your emotions and vent your anger or frustration before approaching your partner. It is not helpful to bring undealt with feelings – it may make the situation worse. Before beginning, make sure you and they are both “deal-with-able”. Many times people try to communicate their feelings, but what they say is misunderstood. In fact, it has been clinically proven by UC Davis professor Michael Motley that what women say is often believed to mean the opposite and vice versa. What someone may mean to say, what comes out, and what is...