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This does not qualify as my favorite thing to do… but communication is a basic skill that we all should have.  The fact is, however, that many of us are very gray and elementary in this area.  It’s not something emphasized in school and it’s not fun to deal with unhappy feelings and challenges – so we usually avoid them like the plague.  But if we open to the divine opportunities within them, we can reap great rewards and change feelings into freelings . Communication has been rising for me during the challenges of the holidays, so as I brush up on my skills and refresh what I know, I share it with you! :)  This is an expansion of what I previously wrote about in many articles including  Communication and Dealing with Conflict , but goes much farther into the earlier steps of being clear about the emotions you need to communicate. I am still very stubborn and many times I delay this process, but through my experience with it, I always come back to...

Communication is essential in every relationship, especially those that we are closest to and depend on. Partners can best recognize and find solutions to difficulties and challenges by working together - finding mutually acceptable solutions and growing closer than ever before. When done in a healthy way, sharing your feelings creates outstanding growth in relationships. Please note that it is very important that you first process your emotions and vent your anger or frustration before approaching your partner. It is not helpful to bring undealt with feelings – it may make the situation worse. Before beginning, make sure you and they are both “deal-with-able”. Many times people try to communicate their feelings, but what they say is misunderstood. In fact, it has been clinically proven by UC Davis professor Michael Motley that what women say is often believed to mean the opposite and vice versa. What someone may mean to say, what comes out, and what is...